Here’s the thing, if the parent accepts responsibility for the child, and they all of a sudden don’t want to pay child support anymore, well that’s too bad, they need to continue to paying child support. You cannot just go in and out of your child’s life when it’s convenient for you.
Now, if from day one you don’t want anything to do with the pregnancy or child, you will be able to absolve yourself of your parental rights, so then you won’t have to pay child support, but you also do not get any other rights to your child and you will not be apart of their life.
I believe no one should be forced into parenting, but I also believe that forcing someone to pay child support is incomparable to forcing someone to choose a reproductive choice that they don’t want, and I have a feeling that’s where this convo is going to go, because in my experience, it always does. So yeah, don’t compare the two. - Paige
so, hold on a sec sorry but how would one go about absolving yourself of the responsibility? do you just get a lawyer and get into a legal battle?
You don’t always have to go to court, it can be settled outside of court. Unfortunately, it works differently in different places and there is no guaranteed outcome. [A few ways to absolve yourself of financial responsibility stated below.] I do believe no one should be forced into parenting, as stated above, and I believe if you, from the beginning, wanted no part in the child’s life, you shouldn’t have to pay child support, but if you accept the responsibility of the child, but then a year later you don’t want to anymore, well that’s too bad. You cannot just go in and out of your child’s life when it’s convenient for you.
But here’s the thing, many parents get off without paying child support “under the radar” all the time, I have personal experience with this. My father, who initially agreed to be part of my life didn’t pay child support until I was 8, and then from there he paid severely under what he was supposed, even though he had a damn good job, meanwhile me and my mom lived in geared to income housing. My mom, being a single mother, wasn’t able to set aside time to take him to court, again. (And this isn’t just a rare case either, I have a friend who works in Social Services and she hears this similar story a lot.) It’s unfortunate but it happens. - Paige
Edit:I totally forgot, if you willfully abandon your child (in some states) that can also absolve you of any financial responsibility. Also, you can consent to adoption (similar to what I stated above), gain custody of said child, or have the obligation terminated by the court (although, it doesn’t happen often, it does happen.) [x]